Growing up in Nigeria, I don’t remember my parents being the only ones raising me. In fact, half the time, it felt like everybody had a share in the job description.

There was always that one auntie who doubled as a fashion critic—“Why is your hair rough like this? Sit down let me plait it.” Or the uncle who is so funny and always slips us sweets between meals with a wink. Then, of course, the grandparents—the custodians of proverbs, prayers, and endless food. If you ever told grandma you weren’t hungry, she would look at you like you just insulted her ancestors.

These roles might look small, but they stick. They teach children resilience, discipline, empathy, and confidence. They show that love is not limited to mum and dad’s capacity. In a way, the community becomes an extension of the home.

Here’s how the 'village' quietly shapes children into tomorrow’s success stories:

1. Discipline Beyond Parents

Sometimes children take their parents’ corrections for granted, but when an auntie or uncle reinforces the same values, it sticks differently. That extra voice of discipline keeps them accountable.

2. Wisdom Passed Through Stories

Grandparents, especially, are living history books. Their stories—whether folktales, proverbs, or personal experiences—plant seeds of wisdom and moral lessons children carry for life.

3. Emotional Support & Encouragement

Children need cheerleaders. An uncle’s belief in their talent, an auntie’s affirming words, or a grandma’s daily prayers can be the difference between self-doubt and confidence.

4. Practical Help in Daily Life

From babysitting during school runs to helping with school-related fees, relatives often step in when parents are stretched. That support system keeps a child’s world stable.

5. Modeling Community Living

Growing up with extended family teaches children empathy, respect for elders, and how to live in community—a skill that becomes priceless in adulthood. It also increases their tolerance and helps them build self expression and sense of belonging.

6. Creating Lasting Memories

It’s not always serious business. The laughter from uncle’s jokes, the food from grandma’s kitchen, or the unsolicited advice from aunties—these create a sense of belonging that shapes a child’s outlook on life.

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At the end of the day, parenting is not a one-man show. Aunties, uncles, and grandparents are silent co-authors of a child’s success. The real question is: are we showing up as part of that village for the children around us?

Because one day, they’ll look back and remember the voices, the guidance, and the prayers—and that will be the foundation that carries them far.

At OPS we encourage the village raising a child that's why we don't give homework on Fridays so that children can have time to get other learning from their extended family. Parents, please allow the villagers have access to raising your child with you.